Top Reasons Why You Can't Get Laid
Just short and simple, this are the most foundational reasons on why most people dont get laid. Often we are too quick to judge ourselves instead of looking at our enviorement. So here are all the envioremental reasons you put yourself in that restricts your dating life.
Reason #1 - Not Being Social Enough
If your current lifestyle involves you sitting in front of a computer and do nothing but talk with the computer through your keyboard, well of course it is obvious what is going to happen next. If you want to get laid you need to adjust your lifestyle to get a few hours of socialization everyday, go scout and gather a list of locations around the city to see where a lot of attractive women congregate together for both the daytime and nighttime.
Reason #2 - You're Not Meeting Enough Women
Remember my post on fliriting, you should be getting rejected a lot by being polarizing. Therefore in a sense it is a numbers game, but it's not a numbers game. The reason you need to approach a lot is because most people are going to reject you no matter how good and awesome you are. But when you do come across the one that likes you, it no longer becomes a numbers game and purely relies on your pickup skills.
Think of how many different attractive women you met this month. Write it down on a peice of paper, I almost guarentee you wrote a single digit number like 8 or 5. That paper is the reason why you dont get laid. To get laid you need to increase that number, from a single digit number to a triple digit number.
Reason #3 - Not Going Out / Not Approaching
This easily brings us to the next point, to increase that number to a triple digit number means that you will at least need to approach 25 women a week! The biggest mistake you can do now is to not approach and not go out. How are you going to meet 25 new and attractive women otherwise?
Reason #4 - No Flirting Skills
Women are very nonforgiving when it comes to your verbal skills. So this is a skill you will have to train over the years. Check out my post on fliriting and a post called "itemized list of things to practice"
Reason #5 - Dont Understand What Attracts Women
Attraction is a very counterintuitive thing. You cannot arrive at the correct answer just by using your logic and observation. You will need to go infield and see for yourself, what really attracts women. No amount of people trying to convince you here will work.
You can go see my post "how attraction works" to figure this out. Even if you're meeting 100 new and attractive women every month, you cannot display the list of qualities that repels women. Unfortunately, if you do that, you will still get no results.
Reason #6 - Victim Complex
When you come home everyday after the hustle and bustle, at the end of the day, there is no one left behind but you and your thoughts. All your mishaps are caused by one thing. Your inability to take 100% responsibility.
The moment you take 100% responsibility for what happens in your life, thats the moment where angels in the sky shines you with light. This means, no blaming others, no toxic ideology, no demonization on this and that. 100% responsibility. There is only you. You are the problem.
Reason #7 - Not Developing Yourself Holistically
Outside of your pickup skills, you will still need a good life to invite women in. If you're unwilling to grow yourself into becoming an attractive man, then even when you become great at pickup you will not be able to sustain the relationship. The girl is going to think you have deceived her.
This also helps with the process of pickup as well, you can DHV with congruence instead of making up canned lines to fake value. True value cannot be faked, and any forms of fake value will be exposed to the girl over time.
As you become more wise, smarter girls will be attracted to you. As you become more compassionate and loving, more compassionate and loving girls will be attracted to you. As you become more ambitious, more ambitious girls will be attracted to you. As you become more healthy, health conscious girls will now be attracted to you. You fundementnally need to become who you want to attract, because people who possess the traits you dont have, wont let you undermine their values in your presence.
Conclusion
Best of luck. Please check out my other posts and practice everything holistically. Send me an email if you want a specific topic written. You can see "coaching" to see if I have room to onboard new students.
Cheers,
FriendlyWrenChilling.