Nightclub Guide - All Important Concepts Explained For A Successful Night.

Recently, I was practicing my pickup on the dancefloor and got my clubbing skills to a really high level of consistency. So today, I will share with you my process on how to greatly increase your chances of a pull at the nightclub. This post is structured in a chronological flow on what you should practice next, and due to the immese power of this information, we shall start begin with ethics.

Ethical Considerations

Practicing this "flow" would really allow you to pull girls you want from the club consistently. So this is a really powerful skill, and you shouldn't abuse it. These girls should be off limits;

1. Relationship/Married
2. Too drunk
3. Emotionally unstable/vulnerable

If you are in a moral grey area, just ask yourself "if I were to love this woman as my wife, what action would I do". If you're truely a good PUA, there would be no need to prey on these people. Because you can just come back next Friday and win again. How needy must you be to exploit women!

Preparation Before Going

Before you go out for the night, make sure that your room is cleaned and that you pull yourself into the present moment. I often listen to some meditative music and relax my entire body on the way there.

Additionally, if you have an agenda of getting laid for the night, it's likely that you wont get laid. The only agenda you should have when you go out is that you are going there to have fun. Take an eraser and erase all expectations of what you should "achieve" for the night.

I would also suggest going out alone. This way you wont have obligations to anyone. The girl wont ask about your friends and it reduces the logistical hassle. You also improve faster and wont develop any limiting beliefs.

Safety

I dont drink nor smoke, that will give you cancer and liver problems really quick. You're already inhaling so much second hand smoke that it should already be a massive health hazard.

I also buy earplugs (-30dB) and a industrial grade noise cancelling (-29dB) headphones to keep my hearing intact, so I dont develop tinnitus or hearing loss. I use them together for an assumed (-59dB) reduction.

Also, have two condoms in your wallet in case you break one or need to have round two in the morning. Never have sex without a condom, this should be common sense. If it's not common sense to you, I really dont know what to say.

Venue

I suggest that every week you try going to a different nightclub, here is the various things to consider about the venue.

1. The age of the crowd there
2. What type of people are there
3. The layout of the venue

After exploring a few venues. Choose one venue and game there 80% of the time. Pre-selection carries over to the next week from my experience.

Timing

Ideally, you want to be there one hour after the venue opens. What it should look like is that there would be a few people at the bar to talk to, with the dancefloor being deserted.

To plan for logistics which we will cover in the moment, think of a bellcurve that peaks around 1am. The dancefloor would likely get packed after 12:30, the dancefloor will start to thin out after 2am when people get tired and the more experienced PUAs are pulling. This usually looks like the dancefloor is "thinning out"

For newbies, it's likely that your results will come from the last hour before the club closes. That's why you should not leave until the club closes. Your chances are higher the later you stay. This is because girls become more emotional and has less obligation to their friends as the night progresses.

Flow

This is the typical nightgame progression.

1. Set recall point
2. Approach
3. Hook
4. Physical Escalation
5. Comfort
6. Pull

Recall Point

When you enter, immediately open someone within 30 seconds. It can be anyone. Often I usually like to talk to solo guys or bouncers, this way I get into a social mood and I set them as a "recall point"

Since the venue is still relatively quiet, I will start doing my first 10 approaches. There might not be enough hot women to approach so I jump between my approaches and the recall point. This way I keep the momentum and social steam going.

If for whatever reason my night is going poorly, I go back to the recall point and cheer myself up before approaching again. if you have wings, they are moving recall points that follows you around!

Dancing

Close your eyes and move your body to the beat. Dancing is something that needs to be done in the present moment. Dont be worried of looking like a fool or a moron, move your body to the music and "the flow" naturally. Self-consciousness is a guareteed way to kill your dancing.

It's likely that the girl cannot be loud enough to get past my two layers of hearing protection + the music. So I just imagine that I am a underwater shark talking to a mermaid communicating with the sign language I learnt from scuba diving. Hahaha!

Approach

On the dancefloor, one simple approach you can do is to get their attention through eye contact or tapping their shoulders. Then, use some sign language to show interest, and offer your hand. (The fundementals of approaching still applies)

A reject would mean they dont take your hand and you move on. But if they do take your hand you immeidately arrive at hook point and you can escalate really aggresively up the kino ladder. (Remember to remain calibrated)

At the quiet places of the club, you can do a standard daygame style opener. This is rather flexible, but I still suggest going direct because it's more effective and I prefer to be more polarizing. The method is question is usually cold read - group opens.

Haste

If you need to make haste after spotting a mermaid, one of the best method I have found is to make an irrtated or disgusted facial expression, this would make people will get out of your way really quickly on a busy dancefloor.

When I have arrived at my destination, my face will have a dazzling smile. HAHA! How funny will that look at any onlookers observing my approach.

Number Of Approaches

Your first 10 approaches are considered your warmup. You shouldn't judge yourself for these approaches. Early on into the night, women are still rather logical and not fully into the party mood yet.

No worries. You can reapproach them after you've build pre-selection and if you have been rejected early on into the night. On average I rack up 25 to 40 approaches every night with about 2 to 6 hook points.

Remember that the hook rate is around 10%. So sometimes you will get very unlucky. Just remember to keep approaching and remind yourself that you will hook eventually.

I approach so much that usually I am limited to the number of women I find attractive at the venue. I often just run out of people to approach, this is where I consider approaching the same people again.

A core fundemental of building state is to get rejected. Get your biggest blowouts and rejections early on in the night so that you build state for approaching more women.

Wings

I always find my wings at the venue. These are usually solo guys dancing on the dancefloor or other PUAs. What I do to befriend them is that I bring them along to open women with me. I open the women I want for myself, and I open the ones that are attractive, but I reject, for my wing.

The reason on why you want to have wings is that they can help you deal with two sets and it's also more fun to dance with another person on the dancefloor. Your energy rubs off one another.

Start practicing acquiring wings just randomly whenever you need them. This allows you the most flexibility as you dont need to rely on a dedicated wing to deal with certain situations.

The Power Of Pre-Selection

Approaching women in nightclubs is a DHV. As you approach, dance and kiss more women, your pre-selection will rise. Your goal is to make yourself the most pre-selected man in the venue.

What you will notice now is that more women become more receptive to your approaches. Some women will start opening you instead, and your time there becomes much easier. This snowballs exponentially.

Practice one night just building as much pre-selection as possible, and see first-hand for yourself the effects of pre-selection.

Peacocking

Peacocking is still relevant here. The reason why we you would want to peacock is that it makes it easier to build pre-selection, girls will remember you easier. Now this also works the opposite way around so dont be creeping women out.

You will know that you have clothing that peacocks when random people makes comments on your appearance. In my opinion, it's probably not a good idea to peacock if you cant do a good approach.

Hook Point

About 10 to 20% of women you approach will arrive at hook point. At this point I usually like to escalate to the point of a kiss and dance around the venue for awhile to make sure that the girl trusts me and follows my lead.

Next, with those pre-requisites I bounce her to the bar or somewhere quiet to build comfort. This place cannot be outside of the club, that would be too massive of a logistical escalation to be accepted by the girl. I also suggest that you start probing for logistics here.

A tip here is to make your openers extremely polarizing. That way you immeidately arrive at hook point and you know it's on, or just force a rejection quickly. In this way you can cycle a lot of approaches quickly.

Friends

The nightclub is very loud, therefore you need not to engage the friends verbally. However, you do need to acknowledge their existence. Here are some general guidelines for dealing with friends;

1. Ignore them when possible
2. Isolate away when possible
3. Be friendly
4. NEVER make your target look like a slut in front of the friends
5. Get approval from the queen

In front of the friends, escalation must be toned down to holding hands. Your targets best friend should be your friend as well. Without the groups accetptance it's unlikely that the girl will follow you along even when she herself likes you. Group = girl.

Integrating your feminine side is a long term solution of consistently getting the friends to trust you. In the masculine world today sometimes I can out-feminine girls if they dont take the time to develop their own femininity. Emotionally I feel gender neutral, because spiritually I have "let go" the attachments of a majority of gender constructs. This makes me feel like a trustworthy man.

Usually my major challenge would be 2 sets because taking your target means that the friend will become lonely. Only 2 sets demand some special alterations in the way you game with the introduction of a wing.

Gunning For The Pull

Have the intention of going for the pull every hook you get. Never settle for a number. The moment the girl leaves with someone thats not you, you've already lost her. Try again another night and forget about her.

Just go out and practice sticking in sets that you have hooked and try to figure out the logistics for as long as possible to practice the principle of gunning for the pull.

AMOGs

Sometimes AMOGs will try their luck with a girl that you have hooked. The best general guideline when dealing with AMOGs is to not give them attention in the first place. It is always best to ignore the AMOG.

If he is a good PUA, he will likely be able to interject himself into the set by demanding attention from you or your girl due to the nature of a strong approach. What I usually do then is to use my index finger and "point with passion" at the other girls that are all around me and wave him off. If I am building comfort and it's quiet enough I combine it with "why dont you try them instead?" and proceed to ignore the AMOG.

Anwyays, it's not nice to AMOG PUAs that already hooked with the girl they like. Best to choose another target, or help other PUAs on the hunt for a target by being their wing. PUAs on the dancefloor are your friends, not your competition. They might return the favour for you another night.

I have this really creepy experience where I was dancing with a girl and this guy just kept following us and touching my girl. As much as I hate it, I had to spin around like a ballerina to constantly body block. I believe he was some AFC where he was eyeing for the same girl, but nonetheless, he followed us for like 10 min, and eventually I had to point at him to get confirmation that the girl didn't know him and that made him eventually fuck off. It was incredible creepy. Don't be like him. You can appreciate why girls have such difficult friends to deal with after you have this experience.

Entitlement

Anytime after you kiss her, have some entitlement and forget about the principle of being non-needy. It's very easy to lose her at the club and you need to follow her around. Once you know it's on, you should never lose sight of her, even when it comes at a sacrifice of "looking needy"

At this point the girl would already be thinking of going home with you. You can be way more entitled in the way you behave around the girl when it comes to logistical escalations.

Comfort

Aim to achieve at least one hour of comfort before trying to pull her. The pull will not work if you do not build this one hour of comfort. Without this comfort the girl will put up very heavy LMR and you will have a very difficult time escalating logistically. Crucial, crucial step. Do not skip!

These are the telltale signs that you lack comfort;

1. "Why did you approach me?"
2. "What is special/unique/interesting about me?"
3. You (the PUA) dont know much about her.
4. She does not know much about you.

After one hour of comfort, use the phrase "come with me" or "can I come with you" to escalate naturally and return to your home or hers. With enough comfort, she would want to come with you. This way, it wont be neccessary to do "mini dates" bouncing around the city and you can directly bring her home.

Logistical escalation is the hardest form of escalation in nightgame, why shoot yourself in the foot by trying to build comfort by logistically escalating? Just build comfort at venue or outside the club and pull.

The only time you should consider mini-dates before the actual pull is when you have insufficient time to build that one to two hour of comfort. Look at your watch and see if you have enough "comfort time" before the club closing.

Analysis And Improvement

In the next day, reflect back on your experience. That's why you dont drink! And ask yourself;

1. What went well?
2. What went poorly?
3. What is the most logical thing I need to practice next/ What was the biggest reoccuring problem?
4. What can I do to improve the next night.
5. What are some insights, discoveries and surprises I had?

Doing this will really improve your night game at an extraordinary level.

Conclusion

Congratulations on your successful night! This is one of the most comprehensive posts I have ever written. And as with all nice things, do not abuse it, maintain a healthy eco-friendly blueprint.

Please do check out my other posts and practice everything holistically. You can see "coaching" to see if I have room to onboard new students.

Cheers,
FriendlyWrenChilling.