The Ethical Considerations Of Pickup. What Does It Mean To Be Responsible PUA?
Over the years I have learnt pickup, I had a lot of moral and ethical qualms on the pickup community and here I want to discuss some of the ethical considerations in pickup. Feel free to set your own standards based on what you learn below.
Pickup As A Pyramid Scheme
Pickup only works because there is only a rather small population of active PUAs. What I want to highlight here is that pickup cannot be done on scale. If everyone in the world did pickup, it will not work, and in fact becomes very toxic, very quickly.
This is a self regulating system. Due to the steep learning curve that keeps all the jokers out, only a handful reach the "top of the pyramid" so to speak. Although many experienced PUAs keep the door open for newbies, it might be a good idea to limit knowledge to people who have dubious ethical standards or integrity. Know that your success in pickup is because there are many who cannot climb out of the learning curve.
Often what I do is that I only approach and use my skills on girls that I am genuinely intrested and that I would potentially have a long term relationship with. This ensures that I have a "eco-friendly" blueprint.
Toxic Masculinity
Make a commiment to rid any toxic ideology from your mind that demonize other people. If you follow someone like Andrew Tate you're not going to be successful with women.
How can you hate women and yet seek to have a healthy realtionship with them? Demonizing women calling them derogatory terms like sluts, golddiggers and whatnot this is nonsense. All you're doing is leaving a trail of death and destruction.
I spent a lot of time integrating my feminine side to ensure that I am a very balanced man. In fact, integrating my feminine side makes me more attractive and secure in my masculinity than the man who has not done so.
Trail Of Death And The Lack Of Honesty
Once you become successful with pickup, I notice the tendency for people to abuse your new found powers. Leaving a trail of broken hearts behind you. I find this to be very uncompassionate.
The notion of sleeping with many women will never fulfill you, and that is what you will find out once you become successful with pickup. Practically, this would mean that I dont sleep with women who I wont have a LTR with, or if I wanna just hookup, I set clear expectations before I have sex.
Manipulation, Lying And Cheating Women
I make a commitment to always be honest with the women I try to pickup. I even go to the extent that I openly share that I utilize pickup. I find it to be a big issue when PUAs treat women poorly.
There is nothing wrong with socializing, approaching, flirting and having sex. But you dont have to abuse and treat women poorly to do so, because the reality is, when a woman have sex with you, she becomes attached.
There needs to be a sense of ethics and a sense of empathy when you date women.
Identity As A PUA
This is a funny one, please do not create a persona and identity around being a PUA. This is toxic. Pickup is just a skill like any other thing. You need to have a balanced life. It cannot be the only good thing thats going in your life.
Do not avoid relationship and intimacy, seek to retire as quickly as possible and minimize your collateral damage. The skills you gained from pickup can be used in a positive way, in fact pickup is really the only working solution thats avaliable for men in dating so dont abuse it.
Conclusion
By all means, do what you want. But I am a big advocate of being compassionate and loving in the way you do this. Have integrity and be conscious. The reason I share my knowledge and experience is because people who dont know pickup cause more emotional harm than unconscious impulsive PUAs.
All the best,
FriendlyWrenChilling.