Getting Women To Chase By Building Highly Desirable Frames

Specific underlying frames are crucial to your success with women. These frames should be maintained at all times, and understanding how to properly project these frames can help you improve your pickup by a factor of 100.

I want to note that this is an intermediate topic, it's unlikely you can practically do the content I'll be outlining as a beginner. I would recommend that you get your approaching, verbal skills and escalation to an acceptable level first before returning to this article. Let's begin.

What Are Frames

Frames are just the underlying meaning of your behaviour, body language, actions and words. It can be enforced or rejected, created or deconstructed. By saying and doing specific things we subconciously are setting up various frames.

When I ask you to describe a specific person, you are not describing them per se, but you are describing the frame they have projected into your mind - "The impression they left on you"

In pickup, there are desirable and undesirable frames to adopt. For example, having the frame of being more interested in her than she is in you is an undesirable frame, often the side effect of direct openers.

For these frames to work, it is necessary to maintain these frames over the entire interaction to keep her interest and attraction. Adopting these frames into your game can get certain types of women with the right psychology to chase.

Frame Control

The more experienced the woman is (usually this means the more attractive they are), the more likely they will challenge your frame. This is because they have more reference experiences of men who faked these high-value frames.

When she challenges your frame this is called a shit test. Usually, if you're authentic to your frame the shit test will fly over your head. That is why practically, the strongest way to maintain our frames is to authentically adopt these frames for ourselves, otherwise known as congruence.

Meta Frames

Just technical jargon here so we can be on the same page. Meta frames are just the biggest overall frame. Frames exist within each other. For example, techniques build specific frames which lead to the general frame. Multiple general frames add up to the meta frame.

Meta Frame - Prizeability

The first and most important frame to adopt is the prizeability frame. This is by far the most important frame you want to adopt. Notice that this is a meta frame, all other desirable frames build up and align to frame yourself as the prize.

This also means that there is no way to directly "set yourself up as the prize." To attain this meta frame you will have to combine different smaller frames (which can be directly influenced through practical techniques). We will discuss this in a moment.

Notice how the "qualities that repel women" in my "how attraction works" post reduces your prizability to zero. Also notice how every time you enforce those undesirable frames, women start to lose interest in you.

Being Subtle

Usually as a begineer you are the ones thats chasing. But as you get more and more competent, you want the girl to start chasing you instead. We acheive this by making ourselves more and more subtle. Very smooth "it just happened naturally" kind of thing.

Frame #1 - Value Differential

The prizeability frame can only exist if there is a frame of being high value, women will only start chasing you if you are higher value than them. Notice that the sentence I've just written is relative, only her perception of you needs to be higher value.

One of the most practical ways of setting up this frame is through the use of disqualification. You can disqualify with your body language, verbally or physically. You can either disqulify yourself or the girl, so the subject of disqualification does not matter. Both will result in the widening of the value gap between the two of you. Ideally, you want to disqualify her before she does it to you.

Second way to set up the high-value frame is to be non-reactive. If you are being reactive you are signalling to the girl that you are of lower value than her. Ground yourself in your own reality and pull the girl in. You do this through authenticity, being unapologetically yourself.

Third way is to have high standards, and qualify her within the first five minutes of you meeting. If she does not meet your standards, even if she is attracted to you, you walk away. How sad is that!

Lastly, to set up the high-value frame you also need to be an interesting person yourself with a lot of life experience. This way you will have many different DHV stories you can tell to different types of women who will perceive that as a DHV.

Frame #2 - Buy In

The frame here being set up is that she is more interested in you rather than the other way around. This frame is the cause of compliance. Notice that everytime compliance happens, buy-in reduces. This is because the person who is prompting the escalation is the person who is more needy.

Being non-needy is the best way to build a strong buy-in frame. One way to do that is to build a lot of tension and let her prompt the escalation instead. Remember that she is just prompting the escalation, we still have to lead the escalation once she has done so. You will also have to combine this with disinterested body language and verbally keep the focus off of her.

Another way of strengthening this frame is to let her set the "us-frame". What this us-frame means is just being in our own bubble. A good example of this is when you go out on a date. Have you noticed that you become heavily focused on her and not the external environment? That is the us-frame.

You can facilitate her process of setting up us-frame in many different ways. With escalation you can do so by reserving a lot of tension, with verbals you can make her imagine her future with you through the use of storytelling and projections. You can also physically isolate her whereby you become the primary source of stimulation. The key here is that we are only facilitating her development the us-frame, not setting it up ourselves.

Lastly, you can also disqualify when you encounter token resistances. Now this is a double-edged sword because you will need sufficient buy-in for it to work. She might just walk away when you disqualify if you didn't set this frame up properly.

Frame #3 - Ambiguity

This frame keeps her gussing if you actually like her or not. Ambiguity. To do this, we need to be unpredictable, which means that she doesn't know what is going to happen next. This is why everytime you set yourself up as the chaser, you're going to lose this frame.

The first way to be "unpredictable" is to be challenging. Challenging what? - you're challenging her frame by genuinely disagreeing etc. This is rapport-breaking, so there is a fine line to walk. Being too challenging can lead to it being perceived as looking down on people, when that happens you'll become an asshole instead.

The second way is to be "easily distracted". Having the external situation demand more attention than the girl. You can do this by changing topics quickly, disengaging sometimes to focus on something else (can be as simple as zoning out). You can tell you're doing this right when the girl attempts to regain the us-frame. (reacting to "the distraction"/ trying to get your attention again)

The last way is the traditional push-pull. Push just means any form of IOD, and pull means any form of IOI. So when you push-pull, you're doing an IOD and IOI in the same action. I use push-pull as a means of qualification (see my comfort post #3), we disqualify (IOD), which leads them to chase. And then, only reward girls when they give us a good answer (IOI). Example, she gave me a bit of shit, so I IOD with disinterested body language and some verbals, then she chase and tries to regain back my interest by physically escalating with me. I reward her by matching the escalation (IOI).

Conclusion

To recap, prizeability is a meta frame. To achieve prizeability we need to be perceived as being higher value, with her being more interested in us than the other way around and being ambiguous, not making it clear if we like her or not.

Copy and pasted, these techniques can become manipulative. So find creative ways to set these frames up so that they can be authenthic and congruent for you. The process of becoming less subtle will lead to the development of your own style. These are just ideas and examples of what to do to get your mind jogging in the right direction.

Best of luck. Please check out my other posts and practice everything holistically. Send me an email if you want a specific topic written. You can see "coaching" to see if I have room to onboard new students.

Cheers,
FriendlyWrenChilling.