Daygame Guide - Bootstrapping Your Success In Daygame

I consider daygame to be the purest form of pickup. It's so hard to learn daygame because it's not possible to practice in volume. So I want to guide you a bit on what are all the concepts that you need to be competent at to generate a minimum viable result.

My first 2,000 approaches were from daygame and I'm really excited to write this today because I have the most experience in daygame. Enjoy and let's begin.

Variety

I want to quickly acknowledge that daygame has a very wide variety on how you approach it. It's extremely dynamic and depending on your skill level you will be constantly changing it up. So it's more abstract with less structure compared to nightgame.

I would recommend that you learn from all experienced daygamers and their approaches and methodologies to build your own unique style. Goodluck!

Baseline

Have a habit of leaving your home with the intention of potentially approaching someone. This way you won't be caught off guard when you need to quickly approach someone.

This also have the added benefit of helping you be aware of your surroundings and to actually see pretty women around you. These girls will appear suddenly and you will have to go immeidately without giving you time to get into state.

This is why it is important to practice leaving the house and set your "baseline" to an approach worthy mood and mindset. This way you can be as congruent as possible when approaching women and not be caught off guard forcing you to do an incongruent approach without state.

Venue

To practice daygame deliberately, you can be walking around for hours before even spotting an opportunity to approach. When I used to practice daygame, I have a few spots around the city where I could go and spend about one or two hours at and bounce down my list of venues.

Anyways, I suggest that daygame be done passively as you go along your day. Make adjustments to your life. Maybe instead of driving you take public transport, instead of taking the most efficient route, take the most crowded route. Deliberately increase the exposure you have with the outer world.

Deception

Make sure you actually see her face before you approach. I can't tell you how many times I have been deceived by the background looks of someone. Also, have a way to abort the approach, "Oh sorry, I thought you were my friend"  

Quality Of Sets And How To Do Them

In daygame, we encounter different types of sets. The girls you find attractive are sometimes with a group, they can be alone, they can be with their family etc. So here, we will be discussing how to deal with different types of sets and to calibrate to them effectively so you don't get blown out. I've listed these sets I approach from the highest quality sets to the lowest quality.

#1 - Alone
Nothing special, do a standard approach. You have the most control over this scenario and can heavily influence the direction and result of the approach.

#2 - Mommy / Daughter
Open the mom and in the 3rd person deliver the opener to the mom. "Your daughter is {opener}." This is a higher quality set compared to the others because the mom won't cockblock you and often tease her daughter alongside you.

#3 - Groups
The opener is split into two parts. One is to get the attention of the group, to make them stop and listen to you. After you get their attention, deliver another opener to the girl you are interested in and ask the group to give you a moment with her.

#4 - Mixed Two Set
Open the guy and assume that they are together. Deliver the opener to the guy as a compliment. "Wow your girlfriend is really pretty, congrats". Now one or two things will happen, he will say thanks or he will say they are friends. If the latter happens then open the girl.

#5 - Two Set
Stop them and deliver the opener to the girl you are interested in. After that, turn to the friend and ask her to let you and the girl have a moment with one another. Usually this set won't last more than 3 minutes, so the number will be usually weak.

The higher quality the set, the more opportunities you will have for an insta-date. For lower quality sets, you will notice that these scenarios is often unlikely to result in an insta date + you can't talk to them long enough to make the number solid.

Dont be discouraged because I mostly approach women who are alone and get plenty of success just by doing that. You can perfectly do well without approaching groups in daygame but don't let that limit you and make sure to practice the different scenarios.

Angle Of Approach

Do not try to get her attention from behind her. You are going to jumpscare her. Instead, make sure you are always in their field of vision before you approach.

If you're behind her, walk faster and walk past her a bit. Look behind as if you were checking her out, slow down and open. If you are walking past each other, try to make eye contact, stop her or walk with her to open. If she is standing still at a funny angle, get into her FOV and get her attention.

Disarming

You will get blown out of set immediately if you look or feel dangerous. The first step of doing a daygame approach is to look and feel safe. Focus on smiling, relaxing, being in the present moment and getting her attention properly to let her guard down so that you can actually run game.

Approach

If you have below 250 approaches. You first 250 approaches should be direct and you should be focusing on resolving your approach anxiety. After you have done 250 direct openers, you want to start practicing 250 indirect openers.

Both direct and indirect openers should be following the principles of a good approach. Start with canned direct openers, then slowly graduate to cold read compliments. For indirect, do situational openers quickly followed up by 3 cold reads immediately after that.

Cold reads for me, is one of the most important tenants of daygame. You can use cold reads as openers, use it as content to flirt or to build comfort, or use to make it M2W later on into the interaction if you're doing indirect.

After you have practiced 500 times, you should mix in the two. The genral rule of thumb goes like this - The more static the environment, the more indirect you want to go. So in the library, you probably want to use situational openers since the girl is not going anywhere, but for dynamic situations like public transport, you need to go direct.

Hook Point

You will know you have achieved hook point when she is willingly extending and staying in the interaction. In my outer game post, I have written a list of hook point indicators. Disengage if the girl seems like she doesn't want you to be around, this means that she rejected you and you shouldn't push it further.

If you are leading the number close, do it after hook point. If no hook point occurs, she is rejecting you, even if she is being friendly. Always be building value through verbals before hook point and only close after hook point.

Content

What to say in these 15 minutes? Well, make it emotionally relevant. Mix in a bit of teasing and comfort. Mainly you want to come out of the interaction with the girl thinking, "Wow, this person is so interesting and attractive"

Congruence

The energy levels in daygame are usually low, and girls are in their logical modes. So, congruence is very important when you're doing daygame so that you remain authentic and genuine.

If you are incongruent in daygame it is likely that the girl won't tolerate you for very long. So there is no hiding here, wear your emotions on your sleeves and empty your pockets.

Calibration

Calibration simply means adjusting your behaviour in accordance to her internal world. You can't do the same style of approach in a library compared to public transport, daytime compared to nightime, with friends compared to alone.

Calibrating verbally later on into the set means that your conversation is dynamic. Girls have different personality traits, values, worldviews etc. So I always try my best to have my content reflect these differences.

Practically this means to be aware of what's going on in her world. Let's say you approached her while she's walking alone at night. A calibrated person would be aware of the fact that the girl is on high alert for threats and therefore clarify that on the approach. "Hey, I'm not dangerous {insert opener}"

Girls can be in different moods as well, maybe some feel happy, sad, worried, anxious or whatever. So being well calibrated is to adjust to her energy levels and to have good EQ, using social awareness and the law of state transference adjusting to her response in relation to you.

Daygame approaches is very unforgiving when it comes to calibration. It should be the first general skill you master. Fortunately for you, daygame is the master at teaching calibration.

15 Minute Interaction

The ideal time to stay in set in 15 minutes, therefore you will need to practice your verbal prowess (See my flirting guide). As a general guideline, you want to be in set for as long as possible but I find 8~ 15 minutes is the range to make the number solid.

Ideally, you want to get the number close before the 10 minute mark. But not so fast! You should also be seeding for an insta date. Your objective is not the number, that's a bonus. At the end of that 15 minutes you should try to make the insta date happen.

Sometimes the insta date will not be logistically possible. So make sure to seed the next date in set so that you can set it up easily when texting her.

Insta Date

Ask logistical questions and try to figure out how to set up the insta date. "Where are you heading?", "Why are you going there?" and use the magic phrase of escalation. "Can I come with you"

Number Close

The best number close is to not focus on the close at all, and be as charismatic, charming and witty as possible so that she closes you. That is the best option. What that looks like infield is that she will get some excuse to get your IG or phone number very smoothly. So just play along.

In the occurrence that you initiate the number close, make sure to make her add you instead of the other way around. So if you're getting her number, then add your number into her phone. If you're getting her IG, make her follow you and proceed to send yourself a message. After doing so, you must stay in set for another 5 minutes.

Texting

Because the interaction was so short, there would still be a value or comfort gap before she is willing to come out on a date with you. The purpose of texting is to bridge this gap. Once the gap is bridged you should be trying to pull her out on a date.

Set up the date with a phone call. Because usually if they are willing to pick up the phone, the buy-in is enough to get her outside.

Do note that some numbers come dead on arrival. You need to distinguish which numbers are good and solid and which ones are not, but as long as she replies to you then it won't be totally dead.

Dates

The location of the date is important. It needs to be able to facilitate a few things:

1. Being able to talk to one another
2. Being able to do kino escalation
3. Low commitment (can leave anytime)

I would say that these three things are the most important because this gives you the most flexibility when it comes to escalation. Try to organize exciting things later on into the date so that it becomes more memorable.

Here are some dates I've done.

1. Bowling
2. Ice Skating
3. Rock Climbing
4. Arcade
5. Drinks
6. Museum
7. Park / Beach Picnics
8. Rooftopping
9. Cooking
10. Sightseeing

Escalation

Opposite to nightgame, in daygame, logistical escalation would be the easiest. You can use this fact to gain a lot of physical comfort by bouncing around the city a lot doing many different activities. I would say that this is the generally, this logistical flow.

1. 1 on 1 in public (Kino 2)
2. 1 on 1 isolated (Kiss)
3. 1 on 1 at your home (Sex)

Physical escalation is the most challenging in a daygame setting. It is location sensitive, and it must be incredibly calibrated. But since you have a longer time horizon with the girl you can take this a bit slower - but not too slow to lose tension.

You must complete the three "significant" logistical bounces within three dates or else she will have an increasing likelihood of not coming out again after the third date. You can complete the whole flow in one date, or spread it out over three dates.

Value Comfort Ratio

As you know, society treats people differently depending on how attractive they are. This is the same for women, and her attractiveness reflects the experiences she will have in dating. This experience then dictates the ratio of value vs comfort that must be maintained throughout the date.

A highly attractive woman that has been chased by many AFCs requires a more value-centric approach with more disqualifiers, teasing and overall more emotional variance. This is intended to rise your value so much so that you out-value her #1 orbiter.

Unfortunately, the number of orbiters for an average girl is less. Therefore she will not appreciate your DQs, teasings and excessive push pulls if you go beyond the point where it starts to trigger her insecurities. Therefore, she needs a more comfort centric apporach with more comfort techniques.

Here is my objective way to define it:
HB6 = Some men will find attractive, but nobody will find her to be hot
HB7 = All men will find attractive, but nobody will find her to be hot
HB8 = All men will find attractive, and some will find her to be hot
HB9 = All men will find attractive, and all will find her to be hot

Here is the corresponding ratio (value/comfort):
HB6 = 40/60
HB7 = 60/40
HB8 = 70/30
HB9 = 90/10

This is usually how you get stuck. You don't have the mastery to become a natural yet and you're using some crutch behaviours to help you attract women. Relying on canned behaviours and mindsets then limits you to one strata of women. For example, picking up a HB7 is not the same compared to how you would approach picking up a HB9.

So if you have a lot of "crutch behaviours" that communicate that you're an 8. Then it would be an uphill battle for you to pickup HB9. All HB9s will think that you are low value and it becomes harder to build intimacy.

House Date

At your place, make sure that she becomes comfortable in your house first before escalating for sex. Give her a tour around your house and show her around. Let her have a mental image of the house and where everything is, and allow her to enjoy the comfort of your home for at least 30 minutes before escalating.

Conclusion

The skills learnt in daygame is highly transferable to other forms of pickup. Especially congruence and calibration.  I only recommend shifting your attention to daygame once you are doing well in nightgame.

Best of luck. Please check out my other posts and practice everything holistically. Send me an email if you want a specific topic written. You can see "coaching" to see if I have room to onboard new students.

Cheers,
FriendlyWrenChilling.