All Dating Strategies Explained

The students I coach are mostly in their 30s trying to change their dating lives by finding a wife/husband to settle down with.

As I gain more and more experience in coaching, I realized that your 30s is the last 10 years to meaningfully change your situation.

It's not too late just yet. So I'm trying to help everyone here avoid the trap of dating in their 40s. If you're younger than that congratulations! Start today.

When Is It Too Late?

Below, I will discuss all ways you can meet and find your future partner. Doing these methods are still very feasible in your 30s, but becomes way harder and more difficult in your 40s.

If you're still single and you're in your 30s and you dont wanna be, you really need to do something quick. All methods has their pros and cons. For me, I chose the most difficult but flexible one which is cold approach.

Method #1 - Cold Approach

Cold approach is the method I have specialized in very heavily. It involves turning a stranger into a potential romantic interest in less than 5 minutes. This is the most flexible way of meeting women as you can have an opportunity right when you walk outside.

If you want to go this route, it comes with the downside of being the hardest and most difficult route you can take. This is the most emotionally challenging thing you can do, and it takes up a lot of time. The learning curve is unforgiving and brutal, but once you get past all of that, you're going to have an easy time.

The risk of doing this is you can fall into a lot of psychological and lifestyle traps doing this. Another big risk is that you might quit halfway through the process, which is a massive time waster.

Method #2 - Status/Fame

Status is by far the best and most effective method of meeting a lot of potential partners. If you were popular once, you would know the effectiveness of reputation when it comes to dating. Famous people have a real easy time meeting women, their DHVs are pre-downloaded into womens mind before they even meet them.

If you do want to go this route know that this comes with the downside of constantly putting up a "front" to maintain your reputation and image. Also, you lose a lot of your privacy when it comes to your personal life. There also comes the ethical concerns of sleeping with your "fans."

The risk of doing the famous approach is that you need quite a large following. If you are unable to build that following or build a following that is not large enough, it wont be effective. Another risk is that this is non-reversible, once you become famous you cannot undo your fame.

Method #3 - Online

Online can be any stratergy you use on dating apps and social media. Usually this is a passive solution to your problem and it generates results passively for you.

I wont recommend online as your only and sole stratergy. Some cities have a very poor online dating scene, so set up a nice profile and forget about it. Maybe swipe on it once in awhile and "boost" your profile when you arrive at a new city.

The risk here is that often, you will waste a lot of your time meeting low quality people. Date after date you meet people you are not really into and not excited about. Higher calibre girls usually dont put themselves up on dating platforms.

Method #4 - Social Circle

Social circle involves building a social circle of hundreds or thousands of people, organizing and coordinating logistics and large parties. If done right, it is as effective as cold approach. Personally I do not have experience surrounding this, but I do know people who use this as their stratergy.

From what I have observed this is a really tiring stratergy. Coordinating with so many people is a nightmare. You can't turn this "off" like cold approach. For me to remove myself from the dating scene I can just stop cold aporoaching without any conseuqneces. But for social circle, you will lose all your progress by stopping.

The obvious risk here is that you will lose your social cirlce if you decide to move cities. There is also a risk of making mistakes, as it has more permanent consequences.

Method #5 - Work

A lot of people do meet their husbands/wife through work. But this alone cannot be a stratergy, and you can might as well forget about it. Trying to hit on people at work can get you into trouble with HR.

Method #6 - Money

An example of this method is like those fake youtube gurus where they have lots of money and they attract women using their materialistic possessions.

You might as well forget that this option even exists. This does not lead to healthy and satisfying realtionships. Paying for sex also falls under this category. Dont do it.

Conclusion

Realistically, there is only three main options you can take. Social circle, cold approach or status. Most of us are just normal people, so we only have social circle and cold appraoch.

Luckily, here on my blog, I give you exactly what you need to get started. I like to democratize information, so you can still do it without my help, it just takes a bit longer.

Please check out my other posts and practice everything holistically. Send me an email if you want a specific topic written. You can see "coaching" to see if I have room to onboard new students.

Wishing you all the best,
FriendlyWrenChilling.